How effective is this cyber love? I have found many of my friends are falling in love through this pattern called cyber love. And they are serious about this. They start with chatting then sharing each other photos and talking on the phone. Is there any one who have this type of experiance. Please share your thought. Happy valentines day to all and happy cyber love.

Naakpore.

everything is possible.if people are honest , relation will be successful.like in every relation if there is sacrifice, if there is cofidence,devotion it does not matter how,when,why,where u fall in love but cyber love is more complicated than the normal ones.coz u don know the exact behaviour of a person.for example,if a person ist not laughing in a pic or does not laugh in front of web cam or phone , that does not mean he is damn serious person, if a person sometimes shouts on phone,it does not mean that person is rude and bad mannered and high tempered.moreover, relation is very much complicated coz even a small thing can create a lots of misunderstanding coz u lack the exact perception of that person.both go in a chat room and if someone who u even don know comes and simply says "hey darling i missed u"for fun the other one thinks oh he showed his real colour today.and such misunderstandings can never be solved coz they lack proof.one can not prove himself that he is honest.such complications are the hindrances of cyber love.thousands of weakness are in this relation coz all the sense organs need to follow ur heart.if u see urself in real life , u know exactly what it is(though eyes also get tricked sometimes).that is why this type of relation is very very delicate and those who have fallen in love , do act quickly.at least try to meet before its too late coz u may have found the rite person but u lose it coz u have wrong imagination of that person.take time for ur relationship but do not always try to check him/her from behind the bar coz misunderstandings are always there शंकाले लंका जलाउँछ .have guts to face him/her.truth can be felt from the depth of the eyes and seldom by words.falling in love for a year and meeting at the high point is better than loving each other for years and years and fighting without any destination किनकी रात रहे अग्राख पलाउँछ ।

अस्तु:

thanx for the person who try to start this tread and i m fully agree to highvoltage.cyber love is very complicated ti understand.if i talk to myself i try to chat with truth introduction but i found most of them are lies every this.if feel very bad to see this.i feel if somebody not like to talk their real things why they feels happy to chat.what is reason behiind?i m the person who face horrible feels of love.i dont no my self is that love or somethings else.i m in cyber love.i love a gal whom i didnt seen yet but i feel happy to talk with her.when i talked with her i forget evry rest of like.

but.....but there is so many but...i was alwasy real with her but she was not..i m not say she is wrong.as we nepali..we have so many complicated relation.this was not her fault.when i get her real introduction my love is same as before butwe people never fight with system of our culture.i know she feels same as me but she doesnot try for futher relationship.lastly in my conclusion love doesnt exist in cyber..
ANY HOW HAPPY VALENTIN DAY....WISH U FOR LOVE EXIST FOREVER AND EVER

hey BIJON , it is good that you r being honest on cyber too. I like cyber chatting and i am still chatting with this guy, i am being honest and real with him. It is hard to know the behavior of the real person, but i do trust on him too. What ever he says i believe on it, But sometime it makes me feel sad and scare when people says cyber does not last. I have a fear to lost him. I have never see him before thou i feel he is very close to me and i share everything with him. I don't know how much he is into it but i am fully into this cyber chatting . Will see how it will works.

Thank you all for your thoughts and more are welcome too. I also want to give a scenario. The boy is in US and the girl is in Nepal and they both met in cyber chat. And now they have seen each other via photo and they even talk on the phone. She always ask him to call her frequently. So what's going here? Any cyber love doctor over here in sajha. Please give your comments.

hello naakpore bro, m not a cyberlove doctor but still human psychology can be studied everywhere.this guy is lucky coz his girl wants to get closer with him and she wants to have the feeling that this guy is always there for her, so called feeling of secureness and support.if a guy calls and the girl does not pick up the phone or switches it off and makes thousands of excuses then it is nothing else except betray but this case is different.she wants it so tell ur fren to have faith in true feelings and give her what sche wants coz the more u give, richer u get in love.

अस्तु:

hey Ke bhayo, i wish u good luck and i am sure u will get what u want coz u trust him and u have faith in urself.do not let others ruin ur relationship,very important in distance relationship and just give him ur love whole heartedly coz only those win in love who make their lovers miss them by just giving n giving without any fear.those hearts fear which are not clear about their paths.चाहनामै खोट भए पाईला यसै डगमगाउँछ ।निडर भै जो लम्कन्छ उसैको भाग्य चम्कन्छ।

अस्तु:

हाई भोल्तेग जि, वडा गहकिलो कुरो गर्नु भयो तपाईंले ।त्यो केतिले त अझ घर्मा बाबा को दर्ले कलेज् को फोन् नम्बर् समेत् दियेकि थि मेरो साथिलाइ।
My friend is damn seroius in this love. i was little bit afraid about this but you made it clear. High voltage thanks a lot. Appreaciate your beautiful thoughts. Need more in future.

Naakpore ( Now i am in search of cyber love)

I will only say Interesting....

Nice comment highvoltage.

dhanyabaad naakpore ji ani gurudev ji mero commentma aafno samartha janayidinu bhayekoma.i just write what i feel.success of relationship depends not only on what u percieve by ur sensory organs but sometimes also on blind faith.in love , u just need to do what u want to do it and go for it what u need to do.

अस्तु:

Highvoltage ji, at this point i believe you 100%. Last night my frnd and her cyber gf were chatting. My frnd was trying to joke with her but that joke turned different. She thought this guy is a bad tempered person and said she don't like this kind of person although i know my friend. He is very frank and never gets angry. He jokes a lot and that night he was trying to make her laugh. Instead she thought the boy is showing her anger. And that night she didn't even said "call me" before appearing online which she use to say most of the time. And my frnd is in so tense. High voltage, cyber love is very very delicate. And the problem is, my friend cannot go to Nepal right now and meet her because he is a poor student raising money for tution. Should i tell him that, he should forget about this cyber love and meet a real girl instead. Beacause every time she comes online, my frnd gets so happy and when her cyber gf doesnot understand him, he gets so tensed. Since they haven't seen the real person by their eyes, it is becoming more and more complicated to understand each other.
So, Highvoltage ji, Should this guy forget her. Because, you know, the relation is becoming more and more complex now these days.

i used to think that ma matra yesto cyber ko kura ma aljirako chu but yaha aaja ma jasto hajarau sathi haru pauda nikai khusi lagyo.Saayad hami sabai sathi haru milera ekai patak chat garnu parla. Kasto cha mero idea.???????????

hey , this is a good post.
I have something to contribute. I am in love with a girl thru cyber . i chat with her in a regular basis. She is in Nepal and I am in USA, I am sometimes so so serious about her and feel she is the one for me. I know she love me too (very much indeed). but sometimes the distance and our differences makes me paranoid.
Any such experiences?
i will continue this post if some one is interested

नाकपोरे जि, मैले झैँ रात रहे अग्राख पलाउँछ । र बाध्यता पनि यही नै हो कि भनेको समयम भेट्न सकिन्न । now what to do in such situation? first we should consider the time span.how long have u been in love? if it's more than (a) year or years, then that girl certainly knows about u and even if u get angry, she thinks there should be a reason and even u dont get angry withouth any reason.this phase is temporary one but if people are freshly in love then i can suggest only single thing" patience".
यो मानव मस्तिष्क कस्तो हुन्छ भने उस्ले जे सुन्न चाह्यो तेही नै सुन्छ । मानौँ तपाईंले मिठो बोली सम्झेर केहि लेख्नुहुन्छ-"तिमी त कस्तो जिद्दी मान्छे रैछौ"।हुन त तपाईंलाइ पनि उस्को त्यो जिद्दीपनमा आनन्द लाग्छ नै तर पनि तपाईं आफ्नो प्रतिकृया त्यसरि व्यक्त गर्नुहुन्छ ।तर उसले रिसाएर व चित्त दुखाएर भनेको बोली याद गर्छे र अर्कै सुन्छे ,अर्कै बुझ्छे। मतभेद सुरु हुन्छ यसरी । त्यसैले यस्तो अवस्थामा सम्यम भएर उसलाई सम्झाउने बुझाउने कोशीश गर्नु पर्छ । केटीहरुलाइ प्रकृतिले नै आड खोज्ने व भनुँ भरोसा महशूस् गर्नु पर्ने प्रवृतिको बनाएको हुन्छ तेसैले आत्तियरा हुँदैन ।हुन सक्छ उस्ले तपाईंको मित्रबाट अझ बढी माया खोजेको होस् वा अलिक नरमपनको आशा गरेको होस् ।समयको माग्लाइ जस्ले बुझ्छ त्यही नै विजयता हुन्छ।अनि तपाइँको यो चट्ट छोडेर अर्को real केटीलाइ भेट्ने भन्ने कुरा मैले बुझिँन ।के त्यसोभए अहिलेको केटी रियल होइन र?अवश्य पनि हो ।केवल परिस्थितीको चपेटामा परेका प्राणीहरु हुन दुबै ।
मेरो सल्लाह-एउटासँग कुरा मिलेन भने अर्को खोज्नै पर्छ भन्ने छैन ।धैर्य गर्न सक्नु र सिक्नुपर्छ ।के थाहा अर्कोले पनि तपाईंलाइ बुझ्छ य बुझ्दैन ।त्यसैले सकेसम्म केहि चित्त बुझेन भने त्यो मान्छेको नै alternative खोज्ने होइनकी समस्या समाधान गर्ने alternative
खोज्नुपर्छ ।जे छ त्यसैलाइ सुन्दर बनाउने कोशीश गर्नुपर्छ यदि उसले बुझ्दै बुझेन भने सम्झनुस् तपाईंको मायाको उ लायक छैन । समयले आँफै सत्यता बाहिरा ल्याउँछ ।त्यसैले आफ्नो बिचार राख्ने, धैर्य गर्ने अनि आफ्नो काम यानिकी पढाइ गर्दै पनि जाने ।गीतामा पनि कृष्णले भनेका छन्-युद्ध तब गरिन्छ जब शान्तिको सबै मार्ग बन्द हुन्छ ।छोड्ने , भाग्ने बेवास्ता गर्ने कुरा त आफ्नै ठाउँमा छनि।त्यसैले दु:ख गरेर पढिरहेको साथिलाइ येहि सुझाव् दिनुस् कि वास्तविकता बुझाउने कोशिश् गर्ने र मन लगाएर पढ्ने अहिले।केहि बनेर देखाउने।जो आफैँसंग केहि छैन त्यस्ले अरुलाइ के दिन सक्छ र??मनलाइ वशमा गर्न सिक्ने नत्र यो अहिलेको प्रेम् पछि अभिशाप् पनि बन्न सक्छ।र यो कुर सधैँ मनमा राख्ने -
ठुलाले जे गर्यो त्यो हुन्छ सर्वसम्मत
महेशको नांगो भेष छैन हेर निन्दित।

अस्तु:

hey nakphoreji,
Same thing is happening to me. I am also in love through chat. I first met her in a chat room. After chating some days, we started talking in phone sharing photos and viewin in webcams. Later on, her family knew this relation but, I was genuine and serious about this matter so they also believed me. Now her all family knows me and talk with me in phone as well. My family and relatives know that I am in love with her and also my relatives talk with her in a phone. Later on, we shared the video so we could each other in a real video. She lives in her family and I a student. Fortunately, our cell phone has the same carrier and broadband internet, so we can see clearly in webcam. Now a days, I can not stay even single day without talking with her.
So if your friend is taking it seriously and genuine he obviously will get that girl as a life partner. But, if he is doing this only for time pass you know that....So be positive, share everything, do not lie and believer her those are the key parameters to proceed it successfully.
Tope

ramro kuro garnu bho top bahadur le .. sachaai kahile ho tani mithai khane top bahadur ko ma ta parkhi raheko chu yahi mahinama suit silaune bichar pani gareko chu top bahaure ko jantama jana ko lagi .. u r great top bahadur ji .. aba tapaiko cyber love bata real love dekhi real marriage ma turn bhayeko herna ma aatur chu .. ..tapain ko partner le ta jhai kuti paryo re yahi mahinama .. tapainko kahile ho?
waiting....
perry

koi keti kura garnai mandai na yaar..keti lai chat garna kasari interested parnu parchha? yaso bahne hunthyo ki saathi haru..love bina life bekaar chha

Perry ji,
Ho ta sabai le gari sake hami bhane jasta ko testai. Tara pani aba 1,2 barsa bhitra ta garnu parchha..Sure garne ho bhai...

Highvoltage ji,

Finally they broke up. They cannot take it anymore. As you said "the real perception of a person", this is the cause of their break up.

May god give strength to my frnd to overcome from this cyber love stress.